Live with no regrets and love with no excuses.

Over a week back in Europe and I sometimes catch myself looking at the world around me and thinking 'I am really here'. It's our last night in the surreal Alpine holidays, up at the 2km height in the holiday apartment. Bags half packed, kids sleeping and U2 singing 'I still cant find what I am looking for...', peace and harmony. Getting ready for the 2000km ride accross half Europe. A normal thing, some people do on a weekend! :)

One more week to go. I miss Ghana already, especially now, once I know that it's Friday in town and girls are all out and about! :) It is so nice to get calls and mails from Ghana, feels like real home! :)

hugs & thx

ps. If U2 still hasnt found what they are looking for, I think I have... :)

Paradigma of House Goddess anger

I bet that most House Goddesses do not get angry too often. Instead they enjoy their life as much as I enjoyed my day
today, being back in the role of House Goddess in the Alpine village. It is my perfect holidays and meditation, that allows me to read a book, whilst watching the mountains, cooking food for many people and taking care of a child aka hear him playing with his ego in the corner of the room and occasionally getting in my lap for a hug!

I notice a little bit of frustration only at the end of the day, when I had cooked soup and casserole, and salad...being angry at my family for a.going to do food shopping without me and b. being late [thou they never said when will they be back, I just made an assumption]. So analyzing these emotions, I noticed that anger [mine and not only mine] might be coming from A. self madde assumptions and B. not for them being late, but for the food going cold!!!

Either of the reasons are stupid and anger should not exist!

Recepie for traveling with Latvians

To have a wonderful Latvian holidays in Austrian Alps, one should rent a min-van and set off 48h before the begining of the holidays, cross at least 3 countries and spend a lot of time listening to the same CD. Make sure that the van is loaded with : people [ preferably family members, but can also be friends, work colleagues etc.], skis and many, many, many bags. THE MOST ESSENTIAL thing is FOOD [cause you never know if there will be any in the Alps after the 48h drive and cold winter]. Pack at least a box of granny's made jams, pickles and mushrooms, 10kg of potatos, box of beer, 5kg of smoked meat, onions, garlic, sugar, rice, semolina...basically go in a shop and get one of everything. Make a lot of sadwiches and make sure your wife also cooks some meat balls for the road, peals and cuts fresh vegetables, and packs all the cutlery, glasses and plates!!!

And once you finally reach Austria, which is the destination country [despite the fact that you still have to drive for about 600km], visit local supermarket and get vine and more beer...and start drinking and make sure that even the driver gets some drinks!!! Be merry and keep a positive mind, even when you realised that your booked holiday appartment is far up above the city, on a tinny mountain side road, with 3 bedrooms and one bathroom for 8 people.


I had forgotten for a while, what it means to travel with my family on a skiing holidays! Every meal is like Christmas dinner and the general idea is to be keep the alcohol level in the blood even at all times! :) Start a day with a glass of champagne and you will have a sparkling day! I might miss breakfast tomorrow! :)

Drag queens and orgasmic Vienna.

We (friends and family living in Accra) always say : "Only in Ghana will you...", when we experience yet another unussual situation. Well, on I can say the same about Europe.

As I was shopping for my shoes in London, an elderly in a suit man walked in, holding La Senza shopping bag and looked around for the shoes. He looked around, picked up a few shoes and really was taking his time. I was wondering, what would he do on his own her in female shoe section, my naive ideas included he is shopping for his wife, who maybe is unable to come to the shop (and yet able to wear 4inch shoes heels???!!!!) or something like that. Then he asks the sales person to bring size 10 and he will try them on..once again, I thought, of so kind, they have the same size with his wife. hehe He puts on both shoes, pulls up his trousers so that I can see his perfectly shaved legs and walks arouns, and asks me for an advice as to how these shoes look on him?! And then he adds "I have a receptoion tonight. I want to look nice!!!" To which I can only answer "Oh, (sistaaa :) ) I get you, me too - have to go to concert tomorrow, need some nice shoes! These ones look good on you, just be careful - they are super slippery!" The gentelman buys the shoes and on the way out wishes me a good concer and a trip.

Only in London will you shop together with 60&co old drag queen!!!

A day latter I stepped out of undergroud station in Vienna,  despite the fact that it was raining cats and dogs and I obviously only have what I could find in my closet in Accra on me (that includes the tights experience. Tights and jeans!!!Jaiksss.), I smiled and wanted to jump around. I probablly looked like an idiot in the middle of the square, admiring the buildings, streets and people. I did feel like if I was from Africa. The simple things of a clean, paved street or proper windows and more than 3 stories buildings. Museums hand reach away and line of shops with seriously ORGASMIC shoe and dress choices!!! Spent WAY TOO much money on some super cool outfits and cant wait to go to Polo Games, Citizen Kofi, house parties, beach... to wear them all! LOL

But for right now- I will go back to my royal breakfast, prepared by my loving friend Martin and his gf, will endulge in some cheese and ham, coffee and jams... Life is wonderful and amaizing, when you are Ediite Millere.


:)

~What it means to be loved in Ghana~

Kobby (Ghana) - also known as my Safety Blanket/Home and Contact Person

 There are different forms of love I have experienced in Ghana. All of then include a lot of caring. I was being cared for, when I first got here and was lost with what is what. I was cared for, when I was ill, I was cared for, when I was homesick, I was cared for when I got high on weed for the 1st time! This love also includes a lot of companionship - all the parties, weekends away, dinners, walks, teas... Just like I can talk for hours about my friends in Latvia here, I am sure my friends in Latvia will be hearing a lot about the friends in Ghana! :)

Meet Louisa and Jonathan (United Kingdom)- otherwise known as My Family

Meet Victoria (USA/Nigeria)

And half a year down the line, I once again realize, that I have managed to pull around me a bunch of WONDERFUL people that make my every day here in Ghana - so much more worthy! Meet some of them. (In order of appearance in my life! :) )

Susan (The Netherlands)  - also known as my 

Meet Alaa (Egypt) - also known as Best Friend

Meet Beija (France/Morocco) - also known as my Sistaaa

Meet Pamela (Argentina/Australia) and Tony (Lebanon/Universal)

Just cause I look soo bloody good in this picture, meet Pamela once again :)

Today I am going off to holidays in Europe for 17 days, and the past 3 days I have been drinking teas and having lunches with different people, like if I am leaving for months! :) It is soooooo super sweet, when you get a desperate call at 8am and a friend is insisting that we shall meet before I leave or that they will take me to airport, which is like 10min away from home! :)

And then there is also the other side of the world - with friends preparing for my short visits in London, Vienna, Riga and Amsterdam, arranging logistics and asking what would I like to have for my single meal in the country?!

It is mind blowing, once again, to realize how WONDERFUL IT IS TO BE ME!

I love the world, life and people around me!


THANK YOU ALL for coloring my life! :)

Ces Petits Riens

I was in Togo some while ago. Escaped the rush of Accra and entered the absolute peacefulness of holidays with a friend in a foreign country. Enjoyed a lot of jazz, a lot of vine & cheese, a lot of sun and fun. Lome is something else  - smaller than Accra, more cultured and French speaking.

Those were happy days. And this song is a reminder of the peaceful, happy Sunday morning on the beach, watching the life happening in front of our eyes and being in peace, being happy for just being. Trips like this one, remind me - that '[Paradise] is not some place you can look for, cause it's not where you go, it's how you feel for a moment in your life. And if you find that moment, it lasts for ever.'

Thank you.

Picture perfect.

There is no such thing as PICTURE PERFECT. I wish I could say 'but', but there is no 'picture perfect' in this world.

A dear friend of mine, enviromentalist, life loving, healthy guy was always looking for the THE ONE, adored children and could not wait to have a family of his own at the age of 34. He met a girl, fell in love, followed here to different continent, found out she is pregnant, got married, had everything set out for a PICTURE PERFECT life and then the baby daughter died few days after she was born.


I once met Prince Charming, fell in love and had two amaizing years with him in my life... moved together and it all fell apart.

Bought a beautiful dress, but on the 1st day wearing it, realised that they had left the security tag on it - so had to tore it off and the saw the dress. It was no longer the perfect dress.

I had this Picture Perfect moment on a beach recently, when the one person I felt most safe with, as holding me as he read his book out loud to me, and the sun was playing with my skin... Far away from the world, just us. Picture Perfect...but I was lying there and thinking - what da fuck, I am seriously fucked up.

 Now I am sitting on the bench and thinking about my lesson learnt:

When ever it gets too perfect - enjoy it, cause it will not last! 

TGF - cosmoclock in Ghana!

Connecting dots.

I guess we are live in our Bubbles, until we someone bursts it, we are forced to step out of it or simply - life happens! Adding me living in a Bubble and meeting a soul mate that tore me apart, hurt me and made me get better...

I am like newborn in this wonderful country of Ghana! I had lost my positive touch, and so Ghana had turned mean to me. As soon as I put my smile on, I glow and all the taxi drivers are nice to me. I get everything I need and keep gloving! I cant believe, that I had been denied this feeling for a while and it took only few months for me to loose it and few painful, depressive weeks to put it all back together!

So new improved Ediite 2011 - is happy inside and out. Has a glow and smile. A nice job, she likes more and more, lovely, new apartment and fully equipped life in Ghana! I feel best then million things are going, when my web broser has more than 5 pages open and when I have at least 3 phones in front of me... I like to keep a calendar, be busy with things and people that make me happy. And yet also have a space for surprises.

Like last night - met my dear friend's husband, who is visiting Ghana for work and realised that Ghana has a different side, that I had been ignoring and denying wanting to know! I want to know it all! Met some cool people and connected dots as to what is what and who is who is Ghana! Really helped! :)

I am  now officially on sparkling FANTA COCKTAIL diet, working on my tan and abusing the fact that the company I work for, also has a SPA in my office building! :)


LALALALALALAL Ediite is happy!