Yesterday, I found myself super tired after a semi-bust working day and mostly, lacking the AC at work, so loads of sun and too much heat! And yet, after my Twi class, I had agreed to meet my friend in a pub for a drink - just to catch up! [we hadn't met for 2 days at that stage! :) ] And its just nice to be a in English pub, run by Indians, with local staff and clients, after work, finishing the day with a beer and then off to bed! A thing I have always missed from UK, but being in an ex-British colony, have managed to reestablish in my daily schedule. This is not to say that I am off to pub every day, but I guess at least 3 times a week I am in my regular spot, drinking my regular drink, with my regular waiter and my regular friends.
'REGULAR' is a new words in my life, but much needed after a lot of changes and uncertainties. Home, traditions, REGULAR are all very welcome in my life at this stage!
Anyhow, so yesterday I was sitting in the pub with one of my Arab friends, happily married for almost 10 years, with kids etc. Talking about life and everything, and somehow touched upon the issue of marriage. In his opinion, one can only, truly be happy with someone from their own country - culture. To which I was opposing, since the image of me with a typical Latvian from Latvia - freaks me out! [Sorry, guys! :-)] [Thou having read the book 'Latvians are everywhere'/ 'Latviesi ir visur', I hope to ran into some proper expat Latvian here in Ghana that is looking for a wife! :) ] The bottom line was - he said that I would never be happy with an Arab guy, just like an Arab guy would never be happy with me as a wife. I am not marriage material for an Arab! :) hehehe
And I see the point and quite agree with that, and not opposing this one, just wanted to share this with you, since this comment really showed me his honesty and how he knows the strength of our friendship to say that and know that I will accept it rather than being upset.
This got me thinking yesterday and this morning, would I really be happy as a housewife?! I mean, I love the idea etc., but in practice - how long could I possibly stay at home and now network and not meet new people!? I am outgoing, social, bubble person, that will walk to a person and introduce herself, if I want to! And I know that in some cultures that is acceptable, the wife or gf can do that and there are no agendas or worries to such encounters. They are loved for who they are and nobody has to change for the other person.
Keeping oneself as he or she is and finding the other match that will MATCH.
Bottom line - if Arabs are not quite the marriage material for me either, they are definitely amongst some of the most honest, helpful and trustworthy friends.
I am rather interested in how you two got to that bottom line of not being able to be happy together. People are so different. One might be happy and sad from his/her own background.
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